74. The History of Dating: Part I
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Digitalisation
has changed everything around us. It has proliferated and changed every aspect
of our everyday lives, including dating. But did you know that dating as a
concept has never been static? It has evolved over a period of time. Let’s see
how!
Earlier in
the medieval ages, unless you or your parents could handpick the love of your
life, you would either have to accept your fate or find different ways to look
for someone. One of the ways people found their spouses was through the use of
the then limited mass media. With the advent of newspapers, people started
posting personal ads, as a last resort for people with no other means of
finding someone. The first woman to post a personal ad was Helen Morrison, and
it was believed she was mentally unstable for doing so. Yet, dating was
considered a felony despite the popularity of these personal ads. A young man
and woman meeting in public were, in the eyes of the authorities, believed to
be prostitution, and women could be arrested for it. Dating is a relatively new
concept! The word was coined in 1896 by George Ade, a columnist for the Chicago
Records. In this, a young man complained that his girlfriend was seeing other
people, and was thus, “filling all my dates”, as in the dates of her calendar.
Back then,
Dating was a family affair and the term courtship was used to express the goal
of marriage. Courtship was a private, unemotional affair. Usually, a woman
would meet several men with her parent’s permission, to choose her suitable
match that relied on factors such as social and financial status. When women
decided on a man she wanted to marry, the couple would announce their
relationship status at social gatherings within the household. There was no
such thing as ‘going on a date’.
The first
decade in the 20th century was characterized by the figure of the gentleman
caller who would follow proper protocols. If a young man was interested in
young women, he would come to the family’s home to persuade the elders.
However, this system was discouraged. By this time, couples had started going
out dates and this brought about a significant shift in the relationship
dynamics. It was now a man’s duty to pay for a date, unlike before, when the
woman decided the terms of the visit. Dating now had fewer structures, with
little protocols. This was the time when relationships became more personal and
less family-oriented.
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